Letting Go

I received the latest email/newsletter today from Kristen Domingue, who is a branding expert. I signed up for her newsletter a few weeks ago, after seeing her profile in The Daily Worth (another newsletter, which focuses on women and/in business). It wasn’t your typical “here’s how I can help you be better–buy my product!”  newsletter; in fact, what she had to say in this one could be considered radical, being that she encouraged readers to unsubscribe from her newsletter. Not because she was trying to tank her business (in fact, it takes a lot of confidence to tell folks to get to steppin’), but because she understood how easy it is for one seeking clarity to become overwhelmed by all the “expertise” floating around the internet.

Unsubscribe from someone else’s passion long enough to make room for yours to emerge. Do it. Quit. Go cold turkey. Check in for inspiration every once in a while. You know where they live. But the only way to become colleagues and full peers of the people you admire is for you to bring your truth and thoughts to the table, instead of being a loyal “follower.” So go ahead. Unsubscribe. I dare you to shut out all the noise in your inbox and listen within.” — Kristen Domingue

This quote resonated more with me, in light of the fact that I have been backing away from things and people who are no longer serving the person I’m becoming.  As I  prioritize my business as writer, it is leaving less time for me to socialize–and at this time, building my business is more important. Which means anything extraneous, or not nourishing takes a back seat.,

The right ideas, message, clarity and thought leadership will emerge from you…If you’ve set the table and sent an invitation…And don’t have someone else sitting in its seat of honor. — Kristen Domingue


When the wrong person/place/thing takes up significant amounts of energy, that entity is squatting in the Seat of Honor–which doesn’t leave room for the rightful occupant.  Sometimes it’s hard to figure out where/who the energy vampires are; other times, we know, but it’s hard to actually walk away.

And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.” – Anais Nin

I’m culling the black holes in my life, at all levels–people, personal Facebook, old books and clothes–simply because it’s too exhausting for me to keep things as they are. I’m even stepping back from consulting. I’m all for helping others get to their next level but the older I get, the more I realize that everyone doesn’t want to go to the next level. Or maybe they do, but don’t feel they’re deserving. Regardless, I can’t spend anymore time trying to drag folks along the path. I’m here if they need me, and I will help if asked, but  I can no longer put their needs above mine. I can no longer desire for them what they do not work for themselves. I need that energy for MY next level, so I kindly invite folks to lead, follow, or get out of my way.

Unsubscribe from someone else’s passion long enough to make room for yours to emerge. 

In the immortal words of the late comedian Robin Harris, “Gotta go, gotta go!” (NSFW — language)


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